What if the key to greater pleasure, connection, and fulfillment is understanding your unique erotic wiring? In this episode, we explore the Erotic Blueprints™, a framework developed by somatic sexologist Jaiya that helps explain the different ways people experience desire, arousal, and intimacy. We unpack the five Erotic Blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and explore how each type experiences pleasure differently.
We also share how this framework has become a valuable tool for relationships and individuals. Time and again, we’ve watched people experience powerful “aha” moments as they discover why certain experiences excite them, why others don’t, and where misunderstandings with partners may be coming from. Understanding your blueprint can remove shame, increase self-awareness, and provide a new language for discussing desire, boundaries, and pleasure. We also share our own blueprint profiles and discuss how different types can learn to better understand and connect with one another.
Finally, we explore how Erotic Blueprints can enrich experiences within ethical non-monogamy and the lifestyle. The goal isn’t to put yourself in a box, but to better understand your erotic “home” while remaining curious about other ways of experiencing pleasure. By learning each other’s unique wiring, couples can expand their erotic vocabulary, deepen connection, and create more meaningful experiences together.
Mentioned in this episode:
Expansive Connection Coaching Events
The Erotic Blueprint with Miss Jaiya
Contact Mr Jones for a promo code to try the We Gotta Thing community for three months!
Book your Desire Resorts trip here
Trial membership to lifestyle dating sites Kasidie and SDC
Music used with permission from Luxe Music Studios:
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This episode of We Gotta Thing is presented in three segments:
Segment 1 | Keeping Up With Expansive Connection
Segment 2 | Conversation with Dr Mitch
Segment 3 | The Expansive Connection Circle
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We are Mr. & Mrs. Jones, and we gotta thing goin’ on! The We Gotta Thing podcast began in 2014 as a way for us to chronicle our journey though the swinger lifestyle and share content that is meant to be interesting, useful, entertaining, and supportive of others who are in or considering entering the lifestyle. We have released an episode every month (with one exception) ever since, offering insight on relevant topics and sometimes comical glimpses into the ups and downs associated with being a married couple that swings, along with a sexy snapshots of our experiences.
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