Kink is often misunderstood, wrapped in myths, stereotypes, and cultural taboos that obscure what it’s really about. In this episode, we unpack what kink is—and just as importantly, what it isn’t. From broad definitions of BDSM and the idea that kink is simply “whatever is taboo for you,” we explore why modern media often gets it wrong by focusing on shock value while overlooking the foundations of communication, consent, negotiation, safety, and aftercare. We’ll also challenge common misconceptions that kink is abusive, anti-feminist, or only about pain.
Theresa from Expansive Connection will help us break down the different elements of BDSM and explain how many forms of play overlap, emphasizing that the labels matter far less than the connection and experience they create. Whether you’re simply curious or already exploring, understanding the diversity of kink opens the door to seeing it through a much more informed and compassionate lens.
Most importantly, we’ll discuss why so many couples and consensually non-monogamous relationships find value in exploring kink. Join us as we explore how embracing curiosity and authenticity can deepen intimacy, strengthen connection, and remind us that desire isn’t something to fear—it’s an opportunity to grow together.
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This episode of We Gotta Thing is presented in three segments:
Segment 1 | Keeping Up With Expansive Connection
Segment 2 | Kink Conversation with Theresa
Segment 3 | The Expansive Connection Circle
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We are Mr. & Mrs. Jones, and we gotta thing goin’ on! The We Gotta Thing podcast began in 2014 as a way for us to chronicle our journey though the swinger lifestyle and share content that is meant to be interesting, useful, entertaining, and supportive of others who are in or considering entering the lifestyle. We have released an episode every month (with one exception) ever since, offering insight on relevant topics and sometimes comical glimpses into the ups and downs associated with being a married couple that swings, along with a sexy snapshots of our experiences.
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