In our recent workshop at the Libertine event in Scottsdale, Mrs. Jones and I led a discussion about what it takes to stay relevant and exciting to other couples. The overwhelming consensus was that the secret is keeping your relationship fresh. But what does that really mean? For us, it means breaking away from the traditional marriage models we grew up watching, where couples often settled into predictable routines and family roles. Instead, we’ve learned to take ownership of our relationship, prioritize each other, stay united as a team, learn to say no to outside expectations, and stop caring so much about what others think. It’s about keeping things fresh, exciting, and focused on each other rather than allowing life and responsibilities to make the relationship stagnant.
We call our current relationship our fourth marriage, even though we’ve been married to each other the entire time. Our first marriage was about being newlyweds, raising kids, and building careers. The second came with the sexual freedom of an empty nest, the third was our exploration of non-monogamy, and now we’re navigating dominant/submissive power dynamics together. Each evolution has brought new challenges, vulnerability, excitement, and opportunities to trust one another in ways we never imagined. Is reinventing your relationship easy? Absolutely not. It can be confusing, uncomfortable, and sometimes feel like more trouble than it’s worth. But the rewards are undeniable: renewed energy, deeper connection, and a fresh appreciation for each other. So, what marriage are you on? Maybe it’s time to stop settling into the familiar, embrace the challenge of evolving together, and discover what your next marriage could look like.
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Segment 1 | Keeping Up with the Joneses
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Segment 3 | Sexy Snapshots
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We are Mr. & Mrs. Jones, and we gotta thing goin’ on! The We Gotta Thing podcast began in 2014 as a way for us to chronicle our journey though the swinger lifestyle and share content that is meant to be interesting, useful, entertaining, and supportive of others who are in or considering entering the lifestyle. We have released an episode every month (with one exception) ever since, offering insight on relevant topics and sometimes comical glimpses into the ups and downs associated with being a married couple that swings, along with a sexy snapshots of our experiences.
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