Non-monogamy can be about much more than sex with other people. For us, it has enriched our relationship, created meaningful friendships, and changed the way we move through everyday life. In this episode, we explore how the lessons we’ve learned through ethical non-monogamy show up in our relationships with family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, and even when meeting strangers. 

We discuss the important distinction between being honest about who you are as a couple and oversharing the private details of your sex life. We’ve learned how to define our relationship on our own terms rather than allowing family, friends, religion, age, or societal expectations to define it for us.

In this episode we’ll examine how emotions are created in the brain, why they are essential, and how “affective realism” can cause us to mistake what we feel for what is objectively true. Kel also shares practical ways to strengthen emotional intelligence and emotional fitness—including noticing and naming feelings, pausing before reacting, separating feelings from facts, and communicating more effectively. Uncomfortable emotions are inevitable, but avoiding them means missing valuable opportunities for growth, deeper self-awareness, and stronger relationships.

Sexuality is complex. Sexuality is diverse. Sexuality is More Than Monogamy.

In this episode Mr Jones interview the creators of More Than Monogamy, a feature-length documentary film about non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, swinging, kink, and ethical non-monogamy. The film explores the many relationship structures that exist beyond traditional monogamy, often referred to collectively as “The Lifestyle.”

Kink is often misunderstood, wrapped in myths, stereotypes, and cultural taboos that obscure what it’s really about. In this episode, we unpack what kink is—and just as importantly, what it isn’t. From broad definitions of BDSM and the idea that kink is simply “whatever is taboo for you,” we explore why modern media often gets it wrong by focusing on shock value while overlooking the foundations of communication, consent, negotiation, safety, and aftercare. We’ll also challenge common misconceptions that kink is abusive, anti-feminist, or only about pain.

Theresa from Expansive Connection will help us break down the different elements of BDSM and explain how many forms of play overlap, emphasizing that the labels matter far less than the connection and experience they create. Whether you’re simply curious or already exploring, understanding the diversity of kink opens the door to seeing it through a much more informed and compassionate lens.

Most importantly, we’ll discuss why so many couples and consensually non-monogamous relationships find value in exploring kink. Join us as we explore how embracing curiosity and authenticity can deepen intimacy, strengthen connection, and remind us that desire isn’t something to fear—it’s an opportunity to grow together.

The phrase “taking one for the team” is often treated as a hard boundary in ethical non-monogamy, but we think the reality is far more nuanced. For us, attraction is rarely determined by physical appearance alone. Decisions about whether to pursue a connection are influenced by a combination of factors including chemistry, personality, intelligence, behavior, relationship dynamics, safety, sobriety, and sometimes that unexplainable “ick” factor. 

We also discuss whether there are times when “taking one for the team” can actually be a positive experience. When you feel emotionally and physically safe, genuinely enjoy someone’s company, and trust a couple you’ve come to know, a lack of immediate physical attraction or chemistry doesn’t necessarily have to end the conversation. By keeping an open mind, couples may discover rewarding experiences and relationships they otherwise would have overlooked.

What if the key to greater pleasure, connection, and fulfillment is understanding your unique erotic wiring? In this episode, we explore the Erotic Blueprints™, a framework developed by somatic sexologist Jaiya that helps explain the different ways people experience desire, arousal, and intimacy. We unpack the five Erotic Blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and explore how each type experiences pleasure differently.

In this episode, Dr Mitch from Expansive Connection joins us as we explore the powerful idea of “Opening the Circle” — the human need to feel welcomed, included, and connected. We talk about how the first question most people ask when entering any new environment isn’t “What’s going on here?” but “Do I belong here?” From friendships to community to ethical non-monogamy, creating spaces where people feel seen and valued can change lives. 

In this episode we are reframing the traditional concept of “swinging” by moving away from labels that feel intimidating or misleading and instead embracing the broader concept of ethical non-monogamy. While the term “swinger” often implies casual sex with others and the word “lifestyle” is vague and overused, ethical non-monogamy better captures what you actually explore: intentional relationships with open boundaries that prioritize your primary partnership while allowing varying levels of intimacy with others.

We’ve talked about jealousy, we’ve talked about body image. We’ve discussed learning to flirt and being courageous in the lifestyle. But beneath the surface we all have insecurities about ourselves at the root of all these things! In this episode we share what we believe are the causes of our insecurities, how they manifest themselves in our lifestyle journey and share tools to help overcome them to find freedom in being yourself and enjoying others! 

There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will ‘find someone better,’ performance issue worries….and so on.

What is actually going on in our brains when we feel anxious or depressed? How can we recognize what’s really happening and deal with it in a healthy way? Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we help to address some of these very common concerns. Spoiler Alert: You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and emotions!