We are No Ken and Barbie

We see this popular phrase over and over again in online profiles on lifestyle dating websites. It’s meant to send a reassuring message to prospective couples that “we aren’t perfect and you don’t need to be either.” It’s a nice thing to hear since many of us perceive our own flaws as far more obvious than the equally flawed bodies of others. Over the past few years many couples interested in trying the lifestyle have shared their fears about feeling attractive enough to be in the lifestyle. Listeners hear us say the word “beautiful” on our podcast and think the person or couple we are describing could not possibly look like them. They render a picture in their mind to associate it with a word we say and draw unrealistic conclusions. Or they join an online messaging group and then hastily leave because they feel they can’t “compete” with the sexy pictures being shared. Or they decide not to book a trip to a clothing optional resort because they see all of the pictures of super attractive models on the website and can’t imagine fitting in and relaxing with such a crowd. The idea that someone else has a perfect body is crazy, right? You should simply put yourself out there and be confident in who you are, right? Every business markets their products with sexy actors so why should it be different in the lifestyle business world, right? It’s easier for some of us to think such things after we’ve been in the lifestyle a few years but sometimes we forget what it was like peering into this crazy and intimidating world from the outside. We also forget that some people think and feel differently from us. Some are introverts, some struggle with guilt, some are simply looking for the right gateway or couple to usher them forward at their pace and style. Yes, of course everyone “should” boldly step out of their comfort zone and experience the freedom, confidence and growth the lifestyle has to offer. But what (if anything) should we as experienced lifestyle couples do to help? Telling someone to be confident is easy compared to taking the time to help guide them personally to the next level. Why invest the time and energy in others to help make this happen? This seems like a win-win scenario to me: those cautious and curious newbies and wannabies get all the benefits from engaging in the lifestyle and those of us in the lifestyle get some sexy new play partners!

We are No Ken and Barbie

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White Chocolate Liqueur

in Mrs Jones's Cocktails, special

2 oz. good quality white chocolate 5 Tbsp. sugar 1/2 cup heavy cream 3/4 cup whole milk 1 1/2 tsp. pure vanilla extract 1 cup of white rum Instructions Melt the white chocolate in a double boiler, stirring frequently. Add the sugar and 1/4 cup of the cream. Heat, stirring, […]

White Christmas Cosmopolitan

in holiday cocktails, Mrs Jones's Cocktails, vodka

1.5 oz Cranberry Vodka (Plain vodka is fine) .75 oz Cointreau 1 Tbsp St. Germaine Elderflower Liqueur ½ oz Fresh Lime Juice ½ oz Simple Syrup 1.5 oz White Cranberry juice (Red cranberry juice works if you cannot find white) Combine ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice. Shake thoroughly […]

Episode 44 | What the World Needs Now: The Evolution of the Lifestyle

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Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live! Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! We’ve created 6 modules and over 40 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the pitfalls and mistakes. For more […]

Coconut Martini

in Mrs Jones's Cocktails, vodka

2 oz. Coconut Vodka 1 oz. Vanilla Vodka 1 oz. Creme de Cacao 1 oz. Half and Half Combine ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice. Shake thoroughly and strain into a martini glass.

Bourbon Pecan Pie Cocktail

in bourbon, holiday cocktails, Mrs Jones's Cocktails, vodka

1 oz bourbon 1 1/2 oz praline liqueur 1/2 oz vodka Combine ingredients in a beaker and stir. Serve in an old fashioned glass over ice. Thanks to our sexy listener who shared this tasty treat!

Choose to Become Who You Are

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We all are expected to play many roles in life: spouse, parent, child, colleague, employee, parishioner, student, teacher, friend, lover and, well you get it. If you stop and think about it (and I’m cursed with this affliction) we are programmed by others about how to “act” or “behave” in […]

Pink Kiss 43

in holiday cocktails, Licor 43, Mrs Jones's Cocktails

2 oz. Licor 43 2 oz. Tequila Rose Strawberry Cream Liqueur 1 oz. milk Splash Grenadine Combine all ingredients over ice in a highball glass.

Episode 43 | Seven Sexy Swinger Sins

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Announcing our special project Mrs Jones and I are developing an online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey to be released in December 2017! We’ve created 6 modules and over 30 lessons to help you move into the through the lifestyle while having fun, growing your relationship and avoiding the […]

Lemon Drop Martini

in Mrs Jones's Cocktails, vodka

2 oz Vodka 1 oz Limoncello 1/2 oz Lime juice 1 oz Sweet and sour mixer Combine ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice. Shake thoroughly and strain into a martini glass rimmed with lemon sugar. Garnish with a strip of lemon zest.