by Elle One day, after listening to a few podcast episodes, I texted Mr. Jones with a gripe. “I don’t like the term vanilla,” I whined. “It reminds me of gringo or haole or gai-jin.” They all mean outsider and carry the negative connotations of cluelessness and lack of validity. […]
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By Elle You ever send a text and then immediately wish you could un-send it? You sit there more-or-less holding your breath, staring near-maniacally at your screen, waiting for the animated dot-dot-dot to tell you someone on the other end is mid-reply? No? Yeah…yeah, totally. Me neither. “I hear […]
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by Elle Word reached my ears through the proverbial grapevine. “Did you hear?” the Grapevine called me up and asked. Did I hear what? “The real reason Mrs. Jones retired,” said the Grapevine, “is because she and Mr. Jones are (decrease voice to whisper for maximum effect, insert dramatic […]
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Swinging is a Team Sport It’s not unusual for one partner (usually the guy) to become curious about the swinging lifestyle first without the other’s knowledge. When that person begins to research and wonder about what it might be like to try the lifestyle they may feel uneasy about broaching […]
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And just like that it was over. I spent days, weeks, months (maybe years?) fantasizing, researching, thinking, talking, planning and preparing for this much anticipated moment and then….poof. Gone. Done. Over. What just happened? Though the memory is just a blur now, in the moment it sure was fun (I […]
Read More Unfortunately, performance anxiety exists in the lifestyle. I’m not referring to a male diagnosed medical condition that can hopefully be treated with medication. The performance anxiety that I’m addressing is a temporary physical malfunction brought on by stress or possibly another factor such as alcohol consumption. We tout the lifestyle […]
Read More As we begin to celebrate our third holiday season in the Lifestyle we’re seeing things with a new perspective. Here are just a few things we’ve noticed: The third helping of turkey is like the third orgasm at a swinger party- both times you swore you were done after seconds. Lube […]
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