” Often times when we meet or receive emails from couples for the first time we generally ask how they got into the lifestyle and how they like to engage with others or in other words we ask, “what’s your thing? Some couples somewhat sheepishly start by saying, “well, we’ve only […]
Read More I was going through my closet the other day trying to find something to wear to dinner. I need to organize my closet a bit better to separate my work clothes from my casual clothes from my vanilla get-together clothes from my swinger date clothes. Whew…. That’s a lot to […]
Read More Based on emails we receive and our own experiences two of the biggest fears lifestylers have are 1) having to say “we’re not interested” and 2) being told “we’re not interested.” Let’s start with “we’re not interested.” This is so difficult for some they choose to go ahead and interact […]
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Mrs. Jones It is not unusual to hear the results of a nationwide survey saying that the average married couple has sex on average “fill in the blank” times per week. Does that mean if we don’t meet the quota of having sex two or three or four times per […]
Read More I just knew we’d been “ghosted” and couldn’t wait to blog about being treated in such a disrespectful (yet somewhat amusing) way. Mrs. Jones and I received an email from another couple on our personal local lifestyle dating site. The message went something like this: “We really enjoyed what we […]
Read More I’ll never forget the time when as newbies we received a message from a couple on Kasidie inviting us out for dinner and drinks. As we were reviewing their profile everything was looking great and then I heard Mrs Jones gasp…”she’s the same age as our daughter, we can’t go […]
Read More Unfortunately, performance anxiety exists in the lifestyle. I’m not referring to a male diagnosed medical condition that can hopefully be treated with medication. The performance anxiety that I’m addressing is a temporary physical malfunction brought on by stress or possibly another factor such as alcohol consumption. We tout the lifestyle […]
Read More One of the biggest barriers we all face as newbies or wannabies in the lifestyle is the fear of being “found out” by a co-worker, a friend or even worse, a family member! Just the thought of our parents or kids discovering our naughty little secret may dissuade many of […]
Read More As we begin to celebrate our third holiday season in the Lifestyle we’re seeing things with a new perspective. Here are just a few things we’ve noticed: The third helping of turkey is like the third orgasm at a swinger party- both times you swore you were done after seconds. Lube […]
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Being in the most secure relationship in the history of the world, I was taken by surprise after being personally ambushed by jealousy early in our lifestyle journey. I recall being confused and feeling as if I was being consumed by this heavy dark cloud and not knowing what was […]
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