Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opinions and challenges around meeting and connecting with those of a different race. We Gotta Thing website The Black & Kinky…
by Admin Andi Preface-The couple in this story was appropriately named ‘Mr. & Mrs. Spaceship’ by us because they were so sexy we assumed they were from another planet. We nervously walked through the crowded bar, looking for a couple who in our minds would stand out as ‘swingers.’ I was nervous, and Dave…
In this episode we discuss what “chemistry” in the lifestyle means to us and how it’s different from attraction. Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? How is chemistry with lifestyle friends different from the chemistry between me and my spouse or partner? Listen in for our answers to these…
Discussion Topic: We all have experiences of being judged. However, we don’t often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge. We discuss how we are wired and what influences in our lives may predispose us to our own personal bias when assessing and judging others….
by Admin Andi I always say that I don’t know where to begin, but that is just a cliché’ to excuse that fact that I am about to take the floor and ramble about something that I am convinced everyone else wants to hear. The Lifestyle has been quite an incredible journey for my husband…
Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relationship? Will we become addicted and always want more? We discuss the importance of agreeing on “why” you are in the lifestyle and how critical…
by Elle One day, after listening to a few podcast episodes, I texted Mr. Jones with a gripe. “I don’t like the term vanilla,” I whined. “It reminds me of gringo or haole or gai-jin.” They all mean outsider and carry the negative connotations of cluelessness and lack of validity. It seems as if vanilla…
Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, we align how those same habits can make you successful as a couple in the swinging lifestyle. Travel with us to Desire Pearl the week of November 16-23, 2019! Book your trip here. Join our Members Only community here!
By Elle You ever send a text and then immediately wish you could un-send it? You sit there more-or-less holding your breath, staring near-maniacally at your screen, waiting for the animated dot-dot-dot to tell you someone on the other end is mid-reply? No? Yeah…yeah, totally. Me neither. “I hear you and Mr. Jones have…
by Elle Word reached my ears through the proverbial grapevine. “Did you hear?” the Grapevine called me up and asked. Did I hear what? “The real reason Mrs. Jones retired,” said the Grapevine, “is because she and Mr. Jones are (decrease voice to whisper for maximum effect, insert dramatic pause)…swingers. And,” the Grapevine continued,…
