Podcast Episodes

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Episode 133 | 10 Attributes of Successful Swingers

June 20, 2025

So you think you’ve got what it takes to be ‘successful’ in the swinging lifestyle? From our 11 years of experience, we share what we believe to be the most important attributes a person or couple must have to fully enjoy all the benefits of non-monogamy.

Past Podcast Episodes

Episode 132 | Our Differences Make Us Better

May 28, 2025

Episode 131 | Finding Your Tribe in the We Gotta Thing Community

May 13, 2025

Episode 130 | All About Swolly Relationships

April 16, 2025

Episode 129 | Taming the Voices Inside My Head

March 18, 2025

Episode 128 | Enough With the Pineapples! How to Make Connections in the Wild

February 17, 2025

Episode 127 | Trust: What It Is Not

January 29, 2025

Episode 126 | The Many Flavors of Jealousy

December 30, 2024

Episode 125 | Live Celebration of 10 Years Podcasting!

December 10, 2024

Episode 124 | Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle

November 30, 2024

Episode 123 | The Many Meanings of ‘Connection’ in the Lifestyle

November 7, 2024

Episode 122 | Non-monogamy Takes Work- How Much Are You Willing to Invest?

October 29, 2024

Episode 121 | Origin Story: Mark and Beth Canuck

October 4, 2024

Episode 120 | The Benefits and Challenges of Non-monogamy with Expansive Connection

September 16, 2024

Episode 120 | The Benefits and Challenges of Non-monogamy with Expansive Connection

September 16, 2024

Episode 119 | The Value of Counseling in the Non-monogamous World

August 20, 2024

Episode 118 | Desire Riviera Maya and a Life Less Vanilla

July 29, 2024

Episode 117 | Non-Monogamy is an Adult Activity

June 20, 2024

Episode 116 | How Vulnerability Enhances Your Lifestyle Experience

May 8, 2024

Episode 115 | Are You Too Nice?

March 26, 2024

Episode 114 | Is a Kiss Just a Kiss?

January 31, 2024

Episode 113 | The Realities of Clothing Optional Resorts

January 4, 2024

Episode 112 | An Origin Story: Scott & Kelly

November 8, 2023

Episode 111 | Finding Who You Weren’t Looking For

October 11, 2023

Episode 110 | Origin Story- Chris and Nancy

August 28, 2023

Episode 108 | Navigating Vacation Playtime

July 3, 2023

Episode 107 | Our Temptation Grand Miches Experience

May 22, 2023

Episode 106 | Navigating Cliques in the Lifestyle

March 28, 2023

Episode 105 | Origin Stories: J&B 2.0

February 26, 2023

Episode 104 | Choosing Lifestyle Events with Cate from PCAP

January 29, 2023

Episode 103 | Facing First-Timer Fears at Desire Resorts

December 21, 2022

Episode 102 | Why Swingers Need to Own Their Own Sh*t

November 7, 2022

Episode 101 | Deal Breakers

October 12, 2022

Episode 100 | Are You Willing to Put in the Hard Work?

August 31, 2022

Episode 99 | Harnessing That New Relationship Energy

July 31, 2022

Episode 98 | The Need for Lifestyle Community

June 21, 2022

Episode 97 | Our Thing Might Not Be Your Thing

May 25, 2022

Episode 96 | Nonmonogamy Coaching by Expansive Connection

April 24, 2022

Episode 95 | The Lifestyle IS Real Life

March 29, 2022

jealousy or envy

Episode 94 | Is it Jealousy or Envy?

February 16, 2022

what if we get outed as swingers?

Episode 93 | What If We Get Outed?

January 18, 2022

Desire Pearl 2021

Episode 92 | Snapshots from Desire Pearl 2021

November 29, 2021

rejected as swingers

Episode 91 | Rejected Again: Why Don’t They Like Us?

October 31, 2021

Episode 90 | The Importance of Trust in the Lifestyle

September 23, 2021

Episode 89 | Enjoying Group Play

August 30, 2021

Episode 88 | The Art of Avoiding Mistakes

July 26, 2021

Episode 87 | Normalization by Exposure

June 23, 2021

Episode 86 | Being Bi-Something in the Lifestyle

May 19, 2021

Episode 85 | Feels Like the First Time

April 26, 2021

Episode 84 | The Let Down—Can We Still Be Friends?

March 30, 2021

Episode 83 | The Struggle is Real

February 21, 2021

Episode 82 | The Compatibility Conversation

January 22, 2021

Language barrier. Man talking to an attractive woman with question mark

Episode 81 | The Language of the Lifestyle

November 29, 2020

Episode 80 | Finding True Friends in the Lifestyle

October 28, 2020

Episode 79 | Can We Afford the Lifestyle?

September 28, 2020

Episode 78 | How Do I Know She is Interested in Me?

August 30, 2020

Change in Perspective

Episode 77 | We Never Imagined We Would Ever…

July 26, 2020

Episode 76 | Be Authentic: Acknowledging All Facets of You

June 28, 2020

Episode 75 | Confronting Men’s Performance Issues

May 26, 2020

Episode 74 | Health, Wellness, Hormones and the Lifestyle

April 23, 2020

Episode 73 | Opposites Attract?

March 22, 2020

Episode 72 | Voices in Our Heads: Don’t Be Your Own C***blocker!

February 16, 2020

Episode 71 | The Kiss and Tell Dilemma

January 15, 2020

Episode 70 | Desire 2019: Reflections by the Ladies

December 16, 2019

Episode 68 | The ‘Social Sexy’ Lifestyle

October 21, 2019

Episode 67 | Eyes Wide Open- Lifestyle Red Flags

September 23, 2019

Episode 66 | Discovering Your Lifestyle Tribe

August 19, 2019

Episode 65 | The Golden Rules of the Lifestyle

July 22, 2019

Episode 64 | Race in the Lifestyle

June 17, 2019

Episode 63: Lifestyle Chemistry 101

May 20, 2019

Episode 62 | Putting Yourself Out There: Lifestyle Profiles 2.0

April 22, 2019

BONUS Episode 61 | Do You Know George?

March 28, 2019

Episode 60 | What’s Age Got to Do with It?

March 11, 2019

Episode 59 | Judgment in the Lifestyle

February 18, 2019

Episode 58 | Out of Your Comfort Zone and into Paradise

January 15, 2019

Episode 57 | Lifestyle Goals- What is Your Why?

December 12, 2018

Episode 56 | Seven Habits of Highly Successful Swingers

November 5, 2018

Episode 55 | Finding Our Happy Place in the Lifestyle

October 9, 2018

Episode 54 | Drama in the Lifestyle

September 17, 2018

Episode 53 | The Discretion Dilemma

August 20, 2018

Episode 52 | Play Preferences: Newbies or Veterans?

July 16, 2018

Episode 51 | Awkward Lifestyle Encounters

June 19, 2018

Episode 50 | Reflecting on Our Lifestyle Journey

May 21, 2018

Episode 49 | What Men Need to Know About the Swinging Lifestyle

April 26, 2018

Episode 48 | Which Comes First? Confidence and Courage in the Lifestyle

April 11, 2018

Episode 47 | Real Life Meets the Swinging Lifestyle

March 11, 2018

Episode 46 | Staying Connected During Play

February 11, 2018

Episode 45 | Closing the Deal: Transitioning to Playtime

January 9, 2018

Episode 44 | What the World Needs Now: The Evolution of the Lifestyle

December 10, 2017

Episode 43 | Seven Sexy Swinger Sins

November 7, 2017

Episode 42 | (Not so) Great Expectations: Avoiding Disappointment

October 19, 2017

Bonus Episode 41 | A Licensed Counselor (and Swinger) Breaks Down Jealousy

October 1, 2017

Episode 40 | Myth Busting Clothing Optional Resorts- Desire Pearl 2017

September 11, 2017

Episode 39 | Finding Your Flirt in the Lifestyle

August 14, 2017

New Orleans

Episode 38 | Finding that Elusive Four-way Connection

July 23, 2017

Episode 37 | Our Worlds Collide: Outed as Lifestyle Podcasters

June 19, 2017

Episode 36 | Friends With Benefits: The Real Lifestyle Unicorn?

April 11, 2017

Episode 35 | Keepin’ it Real- Developing a Healthy Approach to the Lifestyle

March 12, 2017

Episode 34 | Mr Jones and Me: A Guy’s Perspective on the Lifestyle

February 12, 2017

Episode 33 | How Deep is Your Love?: How the Lifestyle Strengthens Our Relationship

January 10, 2017

Episode 32 | Swinger Fails: Learning From Those Inevitable Mistakes

December 12, 2016

Episode 31 | You Are So Beautiful…to Me: Attractiveness in the Lifestyle

November 16, 2016

Bonus Episode 30 | Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle: Our Conversation with Jay and Kay

November 2, 2016

Episode 29 | Lifestyle Rules and Boundaries: When to Make ’em and When to Break ’em

October 12, 2016

Episode 28 | Desire Pearl 2016: No Explanation is Possible

September 15, 2016

Bonus Episode 27 | Diversity in the Lifestyle: An Origin Story to Remember

September 1, 2016

Episode 26 | Hosting a House Party

August 10, 2016

Episode 25 | Hot Days and Naughty Nights in N’awlins!

July 20, 2016

Episode 24 | Newbie Whisperers

June 21, 2016

BONUS Episode 23 | We Gotta Single Guy: Our Conversation with “Tony”

June 9, 2016

Episode 22 | Setting the Stage: How to Talk to Your Partner About Swinging

May 21, 2016

Episode 21 | Living the Lifestyle!

April 21, 2016

Episode 20 | Eyes Wide Open: Lifestyle Risks and Rewards

March 22, 2016

Episode 19 | Miami Heat: Life(style) in the Fast Lane

February 21, 2016

Episode 18 | So You Wanna Be a Swinger: Making the Fantasy a Reality

January 18, 2016

Episode 17 | With This Ring, I Thee Swing: Reconciling Our Faith with Our Lifestyle

December 20, 2015

Episode 16 | You Belong to Me….Mister

November 22, 2015

Episode 15 | If We Only Knew Then….

October 24, 2015

Episode 14 | Mrs Jones on the Hot Seat

September 20, 2015

BONUS Episode 13 | We Gotta Swinger Diary Part 2

August 23, 2015

BONUS Episode 13 | We Gotta Swinger Diary Part 1

August 22, 2015

Episode 12 | Hot, Steamy, Sexy and Naughty in N’awlins!

August 9, 2015

Episode 11 | Desire Pearl 2015: Sex Forts and Power Washers

July 11, 2015

Episode 10 | We’ve Come Full Circle

June 13, 2015

Episode 9 | Who the F*** are You?

May 17, 2015

Episode 8 | Six-some is the New Foursome!

April 25, 2015

Episode 7 | Everybody is 50 Shades of Something

March 21, 2015

BONUS Episode 6 | Our Conversation with Cooper Beckett

March 5, 2015

Episode 5 | Soft Swap or Full? That….is the Question

February 21, 2015

Episode 4 | New Year, New Friends!

January 22, 2015

Episode 3 | Jealousy? What’s Up with That?

December 26, 2014

Episode 2 | Desire Pearl: We’ve Been Duped!

November 30, 2014

Episode 1 | Me & Mrs Jones

October 31, 2014

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